10 Tip Untuk Ibu

Dear Diary,

Untuk para ibu tersayang

Dari Prof Muhaya

Jom amalkan 10 tip untuk yang nak jadi parent....dah jadi parent....yang baru jadi parent semula... Sama-sama kita amalkan....

1. Kalau tiba-tiba teringatkan anak, kirimkan bacaan Al Fatihah. Sampai ke ayat "iyyakanakbudu waiyyakanastain" - yang ertinya "Hanya kepada Mu kami sembah dan hanya padaMu pohon pertolongan..", mintalah apa-apa hajat masa itu yang ada hubung kait dengan anak yang kita ingat itu, habiskan bacaan surah Al Fatihah doakan semoga anak kita diberi kefahaman yang sebenarnya dalam urusan agamanya, memiliki ilmu yang bermanfaat dan serahkan urusan anak kepada Allah untuk menjaganya.

2. Pandang wajahnya semasa dia tidur ucapkan bahawa, "Ibu nak (nama anak) jadi anak yang soleh sayang". Cubalah amalkan (Ustaz kata ini makna kita bercakap dengan rohnya) dan ucapan ini adalah doa dan Allah Maha Mendengar lagi Maha Melihat.

3. Masa bangun solat malam, solatlah hajat di sisinya. Maksudnya kita solat dalam bilik dia dan dekat dengan dia. Jika kita selalu buat dan kita juga selalu beritahu dia yang kita sering doakan dia, dia akan rasa satu ikatan kasih sayang yang hakiki yang kita amat sayangkan dia dan nak dia jadi anak soleh. Dia akan tahu kita selalu solat hajat untuknya.

4. Minta dikasihani. Ucapkan setiap masa bahawa kita ini sedang menunggu panggilan Allah. Jika dia tak jadi anak soleh bermakna dia tak sayangkan kita dan tentunya kita akan merana di alam barzah nanti.

5. Peluklah anak selalu walaupun dia sudah besar, sebagaimana kita tatang dia masa kecilnya. Aura ciuman dan belaian ibu sambil bisikkan padanya yang kita bangga mempunyai anak sepertinya.

6. Maafkan anak kita setiap masa walaupun perbuatannya amat melukakan hati kita. Muhasabah diri mungkin kesilapan yang anak lakukan itu adalah kerana dosa-dosa kita di masa lampau.

7. Yang paling penting jaga tutur kata kita, jangan sekali-kali ucapkan perkataan yang boleh melukakan hatinya. Jika ini berlaku juga kerana kita TER.... kata, cepat-cepat cari masa yang sesuai untuk kita minta maaf padanya. Mengakulah padanya itu kelemahan kita. Kita marah kerana dia buat salah, bukan bermaksud membenci. Ceritalah buat macam dramapun boleh.

8. Amalkan membaca ayat 40 Surah Ibrahim supaya kita, anak dan zuriat keturunan kita termasuk dalam golongan orang-orang yang tetap mendirikan solat. [Wahai Tuhanku! Jadikanlah daku orang yang mendirikan sembahyang dan demikianlah juga zuriat keturunanku. Wahai Tuhan kami, perkenankanlah doa permohonanku.]

9. Selalu ingatkan anak bahawa tak guna ada pangkat, belajar tinggi hatta hafal Quran sekalipun jika tidak mempunyai peribadi yang mulia. Allah tak pandang wajah yang cantik tapi pandang hati yang cantik. Allah tak sayang, manusia tak suka.

10. Masa basuh beras niatkan "Ya Allah, lembutkanlah hati anak-anak ku sebut nama dia....untuk faham agamanya", [kenapa kita nak dia faham agamanya, kerana anak yang tak faham agama boleh bawa ibubapanya juga ke neraka] sebagaimana Engkau lembutkan beras ini menjadi nasi." Basuh beras lawan jam (macam orang tawaf) sambil selawat kepada Nabi Muhammad S.A.W. Masa buat kerja ini hati jangan lalai....dan ingat kepada Allah selalu.

via Prof. Dr. Muhaya

Tali Pusat / Umbilical Cord

Dear Diary,

I thought of sharing this with you all and jotting this down here for my children’s reference in future. When I gave birth to my first child, my mother advises me to keep my children’s umbilical cord that came off from their bellybuttons when they’re babies in one place or together. It is believed that they’ll always be united and no matter how severe they argue with each other they’ll still love one another. Air dicincang takkan putus, Insya Allah.

It is also believed that if they’re sick (for example fever), the umbilical cord can come handy. When soak in water, the water can be used to heal them (by way of drinking, showering or applying on them). I’ve tried this on Irfan once and it worked. He had been with high temperature for a few days without signs of subsiding. We went to two clinics! When everything else failed, my father in law suggested to bathe him with his umbilical cord’s water and also to feed him a bit of the water. Alhamdulillah, his fever receded.

I don’t know how far this petua is true but there’s no harm in doing it.

Confinement / Pantang

Dear Diary,

In Malay customs, after a wife gives birth, she’s required to undergo a period of confinement or berpantang for 44 days. Sometimes for 100 days. There are set of rules that she must abide by. It is not the same for every lady since they are those who are stricter and more disciplined than others. Following are some rules that I obeyed and some that I’ve heard being practiced.

1. Bathe with air rebusan daun inai, daun pandan, daun sirih, daun kunyit, daun lengkuas, daun pisang berangan and daun serai wangi. Best tau mandi air rebusan dedaun ni, badan and rambut wangi je. The more types of leaves you can get the better. If not, any combination of the seven leaves is okay. If it is very difficult to get all these plants, just bathe with warm water.

2. Massage and menungku.

3. Eat traditional medicine such as jamu and air akar-akar kayu.

4. Eat a lot of warm food (benda panas) such as black pepper, ginger and turmeric.

5. Eat a lot of ulam-ulaman such as daun and ubi cekur, daun tenggek burung, pegaga and lemuni.

6. Eat ikan haruan or its essence so that your stitches heal quickly.

7. Avoid eating cold food (benda sejuk) such as papaya, banana, cold drinks, cucumber, bayam and kangkung; watery food (benda berair) such as watermelon; windy food (benda berangin) such as jackfruit, caffeinated drinks and tea; acidic food (benda tajam) such as pineapple, lime and tapai.

8. Avoid eating benda gatal such as egg and ikan kembung too early in your confinement since your stitches are still new.

9. Young coconut juice, ice, laksa, pulut, mi and kuayteow are a big NO NO (nanti kembang urat).

10. Use air rebusan daun sirih as feminine wash.

11. Sleep on your back (menelentang), not on your side (mengiring). I paid a painful lesson when I slept mengiring. My uterus ached like hell. When we just gave birth, the position of the uterus is not yet at its usual place and it shifts easily. Thus, it hurts when it is not where it is supposed to be.

12. Wear socks and bengkung/girdle. I usually apply ointment on my feet before wearing socks and apply paste made from kapur sirih and lime juice on my tummy before wearing bengkung.

13. It is important to keep one’s body warm during confinement. Watch whatever you eat because your baby will eat those things too.

For my recent confinement, I was massaged by Mak Munah, a midwife from Puchong. During the massage session, we talked about many things. These are some additional tips that she gave me:

1. For smooth and easy delivery, don’t disobey (derhaka) your husband.

2. Bathe with ginger water. (Boil about 1kg of old ginger – halia tua)

3. Bathe only once per day.

4. In order to have good healthy body (from woman’s health perspective), don’t eat pineapple, kangkung, kailan, young coconut juice and sugar cane juice.

5. Roast lime used to make paste for tummy first before squeezing the juice out so that your tummy won’t itch. No wonder it itches so bad every time I take off the bengkung.

6. To plan your family, drink mixture of honey and yeast/ragi (that have been pounded). After “being” with your husband, put your right heel on your left toe and touch right toe with your fingers. Repeat with your left heel. Another method that can be practiced is sitting on your right leg while straightened your left leg and touch your toe with your fingers. Kedudukan kaki seperti duduk di antara dua sujud tapi sebelah je, sebelah kaki lagi melunjur, jari sentuh ibu jari kaki. Repeat the method with your other leg.

Am I making any sense at all? Well, I documented all these for my future reference. You guys out there, who read my humble blog, are more than welcome to share all these petua. Feel free to add to the list if you have any tips to share.

ps: Pizza masuk kategori mana ek?

Hiccups

Dear Diary,

What do you do when your baby hiccups? Ever since I was a child, I’ve been witnessing this one petua being practiced in my family. The tip is to tear a piece of tissue or paper into a very tiny piece, wet it in water and put it on the baby’s forehead. Poof! The hiccup’s gone.

Model memperagakan kertas tisu yg telah dibasahkan di dahi

I don’t know how it works or what is the connection between wet paper and hiccup or what is the explanation behind it but this little petua works every time. Well, at least for me it magically works for my three children. By the way, my mother in law uses a tiny piece of thread instead but the method is the same and it also helps to stop the hiccup.

Sometimes we just have to rely on pesanan orang tua-tua or petua turun temurun no matter how ridiculous it seems to us because they know better but they just don’t know how to explain it scientifically.

ps: A friend from Japan, Fith, left an answer regarding this petua. Here is her explanation.....

"..mmg ada kajian sains yg dah prove-kan petua ni,ianya berkesan sbb baby akan cuba fokus pada benda yg duk atas dahi dia tu n somehow ia membantu dia bernafas dgn baik dan hiccups tu berhenti.sgt menarik bila org2 tua temui cara ni mendahului teknologi sains.so lps ni klau org ketawa atau pertikaikan tindakan tu,kita dah boleh jwb dgn ilmiah,hehe..."